promised me a tour. Iâm Hannah Ives.â
Safaâs pale skin wore the blush of a few too many minutes in the sun, but other than plum-colored lip gloss and something to darken her gracefully arched eyebrows, I detected no trace of makeup.
âAre you visiting, too?â I asked. She looked so fresh, so young that I assumed she couldnât be a resident.
âNo, my husband and I live here. In one of the town homes.â
I stared at her for a moment, temporarily speechless. Safa couldnât possibly be as old as fifty-five! Had she discovered a Fountain of Youth somewhere on the property?
As if reading my mind, she said, âMy husband is a good bit older than I, as you probably guessed. Iâve just turned fifty-one, but Masud is sixty-eight.â
I couldnât believe Safa was as old as fifty-one, either, but decided to take her word for it. âMy husband and I live in downtown Annapolis,â I told her. âHe teaches math at the Naval Academy, so we arenât thinking about retirement just yet. When we do, though, I can think of a lot of worse places than Calvert Colony.â
Safaâs eyes sparkled with interest. âMasud is a professor, too! Heâs just retired from George Washington University, where he taught for many years at the Institute for Middle East Studies. When my husband first heard about Calvert Colony, we were living in Crofton.â She folded her hands in her lap, was silent for a moment. âHe came for a tour and he liked what he saw, but I never thought weâd actually make the move. Itâs very unusual for Muslims to go into nursing homes.â
âWell, Calvert Colony isnât exactly a nursing home, is it?â I chuckled. After a couple of momentsâ thought, I asked, âWhy is that so unusual?â
âThe Quran teaches that we must care for our parents as they cared for us as infants. Our children â we have two, a boy and a girl, both grown with families of their own now â are naturally Muslim. When Masud began talking about moving into a retirement community, the children were upset. Our daughter was completely opposed to it. She said
of course
sheâd take care of us! But I know my daughter. Her main concern was that if she didnât look after us properly it would reflect badly on her. âLook at Laila!â our friends would say. âThere she is shopping at Bloomingdaleâs, and sheâs dumped her poor mother and father in a nursing home.ââ
âLailaâs a beautiful name,â I said.
Safa nodded, reached down for her handbag and rummaged about inside. âThis is Laila,â she said, handing me a laminated wallet-sized studio photograph of a woman flanked by two children, the older one standing stiffly at her side, the younger, a toddler, leaning casually into her lap. âLailaâs not wearing a hijab,â I observed as I handed the photograph back to her.
âShe wears it for prayers,â Safa explained. âBut otherwise â¦â She shrugged. âLaila tells her father sheâs done the research and she believes that wearing the hijab comes from Arab culture and not from Islam. But she gave it up after September eleventh, so Iâm certain that anti-Muslim harassment had a lot to do with it. Masud didnât approve, of course,â Safa continued. âTalking with my husband about the hijab is a lot like talking about abortion with a Tea Party wingnut. A lose-lose situation.â She raised an elegant, beautifully manicured but polish-free finger. âLaila pointed out â quite correctly, too â that while the Quran requires modesty, it says nothing about keeping your hair covered.â She smiled and was silent for a moment. âBut when she started making trouble about the move to Calvert Colony, Masud turned that argument around on her. The Quran requires that we care for our parents in their old age, he told her, but
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