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sex taboo has been well established and reinforced by these institutions in order to maintain the status quo. For example, most sex education programs for students under eighteen do not include any mention of anal pleasure or anal sex. The majority of sex self-help books for adults include little or no information on the subject. When anal sex is represented in mainstream media (which is still infrequently), it is more often portrayed as negative, violent, or degrading than positive or pleasurable. Up until the 1960s, under sodomy laws, anal sex was a crime; in some states, it only applied to same-sex partners, while in others, it applied to everyone. As recently as this decade, it was still illegal for anyone to engage in anal sex in nine states in America. In the case of Lawrence v . Texas in 2003, the Supreme Court ruled that sodomy laws were unconstitutional.

    My best friend, Jane, called me
a few weeks ago.
“I beat you,” she said.
“You beat me? You have a job, your
boyfriend went to Princeton, and you
live in a major city. I’m sporadically
employed in a town with, like, one
offramp, and my boyfriend went to
a minor Midwestern university and
thinks deodorant is bourgeois. The
only thing I have on you is that I’m
a bigger slut.”
“That,” she said, “is precisely how
I beat you.”
“You had anal sex.”
“Bingo.”
My heart sank. “You must be
very pleased with yourself.”
“Honey, you have no idea.”
    —SARAH MILLER—
    The good news is that history teaches us that sexual norms are constantly changing. There was a time when masturbation was thought to be unhealthy and sinful. In the 1970s, oral sex was considered out of the ordinary, even a little kinky. Today, masturbation and oral sex are considered a healthy part of a person’s sex life. Today’s taboo is tomorrow’s norm.
    Most of us have grown up learning something negative about our asses, so the myths that follow will sound familiar. The legacy of anal sex taboos continue to linger and inform how people perceive anal pleasure. New sexuality research, changes in sex education, and legal victories like Lawrence v. Texas will hopefully go a long way toward shifting public opinion.

Myth #2: Only sluts, perverts, and weirdos have anal sex.
    TRUTH: The notion that anal sex is kinky, abnormal, or perverse is based on the assumption that one form of sexual expression—specifically, heterosexual penis-vagina intercourse—is natural, normal, and conventional. All other activities, including manual stimulation, oral sex, and sex toys, are considered abnormal. From the perky girl next door to the daring dominatrix in the dungeon, people of every age, gender, sexual orientation, socio-economic class, race, religion, occupation, and ability practice and enjoy anal sex.

Myth #3: The ass is exit only, it’s not an erogenous zone.
    TRUTH: It’s true that the anus and rectum are parts of our body’s efficient waste management system. But, in addition, the ass is full of sensitive,
responsive nerve endings, and the stimulation of these nerve endings can be intensely pleasurable—and orgasmic—for both men and women. When we get turned on, and our pussies get wet, our cocks and clits erect, our asses aren’t left out. They too become engorged, aroused, and extra sensitive. Through anal penetration, women can experience indirect G-spot stimulation and men get direct prostate stimulation.
    ASK THE ANAL ADVISOR: AM I Normal?
    Q: I’ve been married over fifteen years and my husband has suggested anal sex a couple of times, and he even rubbed around my butt a few times, but as a “good girl,” I never wanted to go further. That changed on my husband’s fortieth birthday. I offered him my butt to do as he wished and I have to admit I really, really liked it (even though it was a bit sore the next morning). That was three years ago. I never thought that I would enjoy anal sex as much as I do. Now, I often think that I prefer anal sex, and most of our