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your sexual orientation! I think that men who enjoy strap-on action especially have anxiety because of the implication that they are getting fucked by a cock, whether it’s silicone or not. The truth is that it feels good, and when you turn around, you want a woman on the other end of that cock.

Myth #7: Anal sex hurts.
    TRUTH: Anal sex should not hurt—not even a little. If it hurts, you’re doing something wrong. Pain is your body’s way of saying, “This is not working for me right now,” and we must listen to our bodies. If you ignore your body’s warnings and continue, then you can hurt yourself. The experience may make you and your anus more tense the next time you try anal penetration. Your body remembers everything, so don’t try to fool it. You don’t have to “work through the pain” to get to the pleasure. That’s what you do at the gym, not during anal sex. With desire, relaxation, communication, and lots of lubrication, anal sex can be not only pain-free but arousing and orgasmic.

Myth #8: Women don’t like anal sex.
    TRUTH: This is a particularly insidious myth about heterosexual women. Often, when we do hear about women having anal sex, the story goes something like this: The long-term boyfriend begged and begged, and finally his girlfriend gave in to his demands. Her boyfriend had a great time, but she did it just to please him and didn’t enjoy herself one bit.

    We never hear stories about women who crave and enjoy anal play, women who initiate anal sex, or women who are more than happy to knock on their boyfriends’ back door. Women all over the world write to me, come to my workshops, buy my books and videos, and they’re just a small percentage of women everywhere who love anal sex.
    “Buttfucking is seen as the
ultimate male sexual
fantasy. We, as a culture,
don’t understand how
much women can like
taking it up the ass.”
    —SUSAN CRAIN BAKOS—

Myth #9: Anal sex is dangerous and unhealthy.
    TRUTH: Because anal and rectal tissue is so delicate, you can hurt yourself or someone else if you don’t exercise all the precautions I discuss in this book. However, if you go slow, use plenty of lube, and listen to your body, anal sex is just as safe as any other kind of penetration. In fact, anal sex can make your butt better than it was before. The more you practice controlling and relaxing your sphincter muscles, the more you are exercising and toning them (just like any other muscle) as well as increasing blood flow to the area, all of which can improve the health of your ass.

Myth #10: If you have lots of anal sex, you’ll end up in adult diapers.
    TRUTH: When done properly, frequent penetration will not lead to a gaping asshole, loose sphincter muscles, or a loss of control over bowel movements. During anal penetration, you’re not stretching or tearing the sphincter muscles; you are relaxing them to allow for comfortable penetration. With regular anal sex, you can get in touch with your sphincters and you may find that you actually have better bowel control than you did before.

Myth #11: Anal sex is the easiest way to get AIDS.
    TRUTH: During anal penetration, you can develop minute tears in the delicate rectal tissue, which give any virus (including HIV) a direct route into the bloodstream. You can contract any sexually-transmitted disease,
including HIV, from unprotected anal intercourse with an infected partner. Other forms of anal pleasure without safer sex barriers, including oral-anal contact, manual penetration, or sharing sex toys, can also be risky. However, anal sex does not automatically lead to AIDS. Anal sex practiced with common sense, safer sex, or an HIV-negative partner can be as safe as other sexual practices. (Read more about safer sex in Chapter 6 and STDs and HIV in Chapter 17.)

Myth #12: Anal sex is naughty.
    TRUTH: Well, this is actually a myth and a truth. Of course, anal sex doesn’t make you a bad person. However, for those of you who are turned on by