Nice Couples Do Read Free

this book, I have used stories to illustrate my ideas and I’m suggesting that you use the same stories to communicate with your partner.
    Why do we need help discussing sex with our partner? Because many of us have never learned how. As a matter of fact, many of us never learned that it was okay or even possible to admit to ourselves that we wanted or needed something different, much less to discuss those needs with anyone.
    Sexual communication in its simplest form has been going on since the first caveman grunted his version of “Assume the position,” and the first cavewoman grunted back, “Not tonight, dear, I have a headache.”
    Over the years, mankind has come a long way. Books such as
The Joy of Sex
and
Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex
… have taught us much. Dr. Ruth Westheimer has done a herculean job of dragging us, stammering and blushing, out of the dark ages of sexual communication. We now read articles such as “How to Achieve Orgasm in Your Camper,” “Fun with Ice and Feathers,” and “The Erogenous Zone that Brings Instant Orgasm” in our favorite magazines. Most of us can now even say
vagina
and
penis
without giggling.
    Some of us have come far enough to say to our partner, “I’d like to try something different,” but can we verbalize what that something is? I’m afraid many of us can’t.
    Maybe she would like to tell him that she would like to play doctor. Maybe he would like to tell her that he would enjoy being spanked.
    But sexual communication carries risk.
    Will he think that he’s not satisfying me and will he be terribly hurt?
    Will she think I’m not man enough to become aroused by what we’re already doing?
    Will he think that I’m some kind of pervert for wanting something that’s a little off center?
    Will she be so turned off by my suggestion that she’ll never get excited by me again?
    Will he think that I’m not woman enough to be excited by the ordinary?
    Will she laugh at me?
    Will he think I’m a bimbo?
    Will she be mad?
    Will he be mad? And on and on…
    The rewards of successful sexual communication are enormous. I think that most people want to please both their partner and themselves, and throughout this book I’ll try to help you discover ways to do both.
    Before we explore what to try, let me try to answer one basic question. How can you minimize the risk? I am advocating nonspoken, nonthreatening sexual communication. That’s part of what this book is about: using erotic literature as a tool.
    Erotic writing and storytelling is designed to arouse and stimulate lovemaking. The word
erotica
comes from the Greek
erotikos,
“of or caused by love.” That Greek word derives from Eros, the Greek god of love. Please don’t confuse this with pornography, which is defined as “written, graphic, or other forms of communication intended to excite lascivious [lustful or lewd] feelings.” This word comes from
porne,
the Greek word for harlot.
    I’m suggesting that you use erotica as a communication tool the way I did with Pete and still do with Ed.
    There are two ways to start. Either read this book yourself, then use a bookmark to indicate something that excites you, and give the volume to your partner to read in private, or give the book to your partner unmarked and let him or her do the bookmarking.
    Of course, if, while you’re reading, you find a section of this book so exciting that you want to put the book aside and make passionate love to your partner, forget the bookmark and go for it. If you’re lucky, it will take weeks for you to finish the book and you’ll enjoy the frequent interludes even before you start bookmarking.
    Don’t feel that you have to read all the stories I’ve written. Some may not interest you. However, by reading the entire book, you may become aware of sexual games that you never thought about before but that intrigue you. There are also small items in each story that you might want to mark: a particular position