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or a place to make love, a toy to play with, or a role to play.
    After you have read as much as you want, select an idea, a situation, a position, or whatever and mark it. Use a bookmark dog-ear the page, or underline or highlight a particular sentence or paragraph. Then give this book to your partner, or leave it where he can find it. If you want to, you can read sections of the book aloud.
    Another way to use this volume is to give the unmarked book to your partner and suggest that he bookmark a section and give it back to you. But whatever way you choose to use this book, continue to use it. Your first bookmark shouldn’t be your last.
    Don’t panic if you are the recipient of the book, unmarked. Open your mind and relax. Someone is trying to tell you something wonderful. You have just gotten one of the best compliments you have ever received. Your partner has said to you, “I think that you are open-minded enough to understand what I am trying to tell you. I want to have fun with you. I want us to enjoy something new, together. I don’t want to fantasize alone anymore. I want to share my fantasies with you or even act one out. What would you like to try?”
    Do what I did. Select a story that appeals to you and put a bookmark on the first page of the article. If only a small section of a story appeals to you, mark the page, or write in the margin.
    If the idea of acting out a situation or trying a new scenario doesn’t appeal to you yet, bookmark one of the “Bedtime Stories” at the end of the book that might be fun to read aloud or just read silently together. Be sure to clarify whether you want to read aloud or act out.
    Whatever you’ve chosen, give the book back to your partner. If you find the whole thing very embarrassing, that’s all right. Slip the book under your partner’s pillow, on the seat of the car, or in a briefcase.
    Notice that it is not necessary to speak, or even to face each other. Your embarrassment needn’t be obvious. You can pretend to be as suave as you like, although it’s probably unnecessary. Most likely your partner will be as nervous as you are.
    Now relax and wait to see what happens.
    What should you do if you are the recipient of a bookmarked article?
    Smile. Your partner has just said something wonderful to you. She has just said, “Here is a secret that I haven’t shared with anyone. It’s a delicious idea that might appeal to you and might enhance our sexual and sensual time together. I want to share this idea. Does it appeal to you?”
    There are, of course, two answers to that unspoken question.
    If the idea doesn’t appeal to you,
read the book yourself and move the bookmark. Slip a note in the newly selected page and say, “How about this instead?” The book can pass back and forth until you find a mutually satisfying selection. Maybe you’ll find only a small passage. That’s all right, too. You’ve just opened a sexual dialogue, without words. Other forms of communication will grow from it.
    It is most important that your body language reinforce your desire to continue to communicate in order to find a mutual pleasure. This is a very delicate moment and your partner has taken a risk. He has risked your disapproval. Tread very gently. If his idea of something wonderful is about as far from yours as it can get, that’s okay. Just don’t convey the feeling that there is something “bad” about what was just communicated. Remember one of the premises upon which this book is based: Nothing that two people enjoy doing together is “bad.” People’s ideas of what’s sexually stimulating are often different.
    If the idea that your partner has suggested appeals to you,
that’s wonderful. Very often, two people have had the same fantasies for a long time but never knew it.
    Now you have to figure out how to bring your mutual desires from fantasy to reality. What a wonderful problem.
    First, get rid of the kids. Send them to their grandparents. Swap them out