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with the holistic, nurturing potential of their right brain.
    In My Stroke of Insight , Jill Bolte Taylor describes how, after being trained to rely heavily on her left hemisphere as a brain scientist, she experienced a stroke that damaged her left brain and opened her eyes to the workings of her right hemisphere. During her recovery, while her right brain dominated, she experienced blissful sensations of love, compassion, peace, and interconnectedness with all things. Her descriptions are reminiscent of the teachings of Eastern religions and ancient meditation practices on becoming “one” with the cosmos.
    Tapping into the right side of your brain can help you maintain a balanced life, improve your sense of well-being, and nurture your capacity for a healthy intimate relationship. It can also get you in touch with “the sensuality mentality”—your natural ability to experience all the joys of loving sexual union. Your two-sided brain is exquisitely designed to allow you full awareness of sexual pleasure; it is, if you will, your great sex duplex. But for many women, it’s the power of the right brain that allows them to experience pleasure while disengaging from other mental activities, in a sense liberating sexuality from intellectuality.
    You don’t need to have a stroke to cultivate the potential of your right brain; you can stimulate its neuronal circuitry with virtually any activity that gives you a temporary reprieve from tasks governed by your left brain and engages your natural intuitive powers. In addition to meditation, examples include art, music, dance, yoga, and many forms of spontaneity and play.
    You Can Change Your Mind, Whenever You Want
    The quotation at the beginning of this chapter says it all: your “mind is the most powerful instrument in the universe.” You can do practically anything you put your mind to, and you can put your mind to practically anything . Your thoughts influence your feelings and behavior from one moment to the next, so at any point in time you can change your thoughts and change your life. As Louise Hay has written in Heal Your Body , “by changing our thinking patterns, we can change our experiences.” Your conscious intentions and beliefs can shape your destiny, and you can choose happiness, health, beneficial relationships, love, and sexual fulfillment. The most important step you can take to enhance your sexuality is to consciously choose a set of thoughts and beliefs that will create, not negate, great sex—in short, a credo for your libido .
    This is underscored by an understanding of how your brain functions. One of its most wonderful qualities is plasticity —its capacity to be malleable and changeable. By consciously altering the thoughts that dominate your life, you redirect your perceptions. Over time, this changes neurochemicals released, and reshapes your brain’s circuitry by creating new nerve tracks and altering your very cells. By choosing new thoughts, you can thus “rewire” your brain, override old patterns of thinking and behavior, and ultimately transform your relationship to the world and to your sexual partner.
    The key to choosing new, more health-affirming thoughts is becoming conscious of your present thinking patterns and choices and how they may be affecting your health, relationships, or sexuality. By increasing your awareness, you can discover areas where you may be unknowingly working against yourself—for example, with thoughts that subvert your health or sabotage a relationship—and replace them with thoughts you need in order to make better choices. As Wayne Dyer says in his book There’s a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem , it’s a matter of keeping your focus on what you want in your life: “If your thoughts are on what you don’t want … you will act upon those thoughts and more of what you don’t want will keep showing up.” You’re well on your way to achieving a great sex life if you simply keep your eyes on the