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may wish to focus on basic bodily restraint. For example, the male dominant may hold his submissive in position by her hair during penetration. He may also push her body against a wall or lean her over a dresser as he has his way with her: if this is your gameplan, make sure there are no religious icons or photos of your mother-in-law on the dresser. Talk about mood breakers. A male submissive may imagine that he has ingested a drug that has temporarily rendered him paralyzed and unable to resist his female dominant’s unwanted sexual advances. The poor boy.

10. Sex & Sensory Deprivation
    It’s hard science: when a person loses one of his or her senses, the other senses are enhanced. Sight is perhaps the easiest sense to restrict during sex, and blindfolds are a must in any BDSM bedside drawer. A female dominant may want to use a silk stocking to cover her male submissive’s eyes, perhaps spritzing it with perfume to tantalize hisnearby nostrils. Male dominants may want to use a necktie—a sexily masculine choice—laced with a drop of cologne.
    Sensory deprivation scenes are popular in BDSM sexplay. Muzzles, mouth gags and hoods, some with open mouths and some with zippered or closed mouths, are often used to restrict the speech, sight and hearing of the submissive partner. For mainstream or beginning BDSM players whofind full leather hoods too intimidating, a satisfactory degree of sensory deprivation can often be achieved by simply placing the bedcovers over the submissive’s face. This creates a novel sense of anonymity and anticipation for both partners.

12. Erotic Spanking
    Spanking is a common practice that combines pain and pleasure, or sadism and masochism, while also amplifying the control dynamics between BDSM players. The dominant can spank the submissive in a number of positions: bent over the dominant’s knee or a piece of furniture, lying prone, twisting from the supine position, crouching on all fours or standing.Restraint with BDSM bondage gear enhances sexual exploitation and excitement.
    Spanking intensifies sexual pleasure by increasing blood flow to the buttocks and genital region. It creates a sexual “burn” that heightens genital stimulation and spikes arousal. Although nothing more than an open, bare hand is needed to spank, special spanking instruments bring extra sensation and novelty to theexperience. Impression slappers leave a symbol or word on the submissive’s buttocks, while thin “devil’s tail” slappers result in a sharp sting. Flatter paddles, made of leather or suede, have great versatility and cover more surface area.
    Makeshift spanking instruments can be found in your kitchen drawers, too. Spatulas, whisks, egg turners and wooden spoons all work. If you’re too shy tobrowse the spanking aisle at a sex shop, you can guiltlessly wander the aisles at a kitchen shop and choose a selection of “toys.” Kitchen utensils like spatulas and egg turners come in a variety of shapes, sizes and materials, from plastic to metal, and each will create a different spanking sensation. You can also swipe a rubber-lined paddle off the tennis table in your rec room.
    Duringerotic spanking, the dominant should alternate the force of blows—sometimes hard, sometimes soft—to keep the submissive in a state of uncertain expectation. The dominant should also interrupt spanking strokes to gently caress the submissive’s buttocks. This quickly changes the erotic mood from rough punishment to tender love—precisely the type of mind game that BDSM partners love to play.

13. Flogging Instruments
    While paddles and slappers are designed for spanking the buttocks, flogging instruments like whips and canes can add impact to other areas of the body. Leather or suede whips allow for a softer touch, while rubber whips are better at creating the hot, stinging sensation that many BDSM players crave. Whips with multiple tassels are best, as these candeliver the greatest range of stimulation. Canes may be