50 Ways to Play Read Free

both a headboard and a footboard, it may be simpler to secure each length of rope to those to hold a submissive in the spread-eagle position.

7. The Ottoman Empire
    No bondage boudoir is complete without a thickly cushioned ottoman sitting with deceptive innocence at the foot of the bed. This versatile piece of furniture allows a couple to engage in many BDSM activities. It should be low and long enough for one partner to lie on with good stability, but still narrow enough for the other partner to straddle withrelative ease and mobility.
    The submissive partner, whether male or female, lies supine on the ottoman while the dominant binds him or her to it with rope. Elements of Japanese rope bondage can be incorporated, so that the rope wraps around the submissive’s body rather than simply tethering the wrists and ankles. The submissive’s arms should be at his or her sides. If the submissive is themale partner, his legs should be bound closed; if female, her legs should be slightly spread when bound to the ottoman to accommodate penetration.
    With the submissive bound in this vulnerable position, the dominant straddles the ottoman to stand above his or her partner. In this position, the dominant can lower his or her body on top of the submissive’s mouth to enjoy oral sex and then slidedown to use the submissive’s genitals for intercourse.

8. Suspended Sex
    Suspension bondage is a form of BDSM where the dominant hangs the submissive in some type of suspension system or device and then performs sexual acts to his or her body while it is so restrained. This practice requires skill and the proper equipment, which can be costly, complicated and dangerous to the inexperienced; however, BDSM beginners who don’t wantto invest in a fully furnished dungeon can replicate the thrill of suspension in the shower. One of the sexiest ways to restrain a submissive is to tie the hands high above the head, making the body totally vulnerable. Fastening the submissive’s hands to a secure shower rod can mimic this suspension-inspired position by stretching the body, limiting resistance, maximizing the sense of exploitationand exposing the highly sensitive stretches of skin along the torso.
    With the submissive in this position, the dominant can perform erotic torture (see #33 ) at leisure, using either his or her hands, mouth or a sex toy. For example, a female dominant may fellate her submissive just enough to keep him in sexual agony, while a male dominant may penetrate his submissive in the standing position,sometimes with his penis and sometimes with a vibrator. They may move into the shower to enjoy aqua sex afterward. A silicone-based personal lubricant is recommended to facilitate intercourse in the water.
    Door jam cuffs offer another easy, economical way to restrain a submissive with his or her hands over the head. They are comprised of wrist restraints that attach to weighted straps, whichdrape over the top of a door and are secured by closing it. This is a discreet, must-have bondage item that facilitates many BDSM activities.

9. Hold Me Down
    Not all sexual restraint games require bondage equipment to play. Sometimes, the weight of a partner’s body is just as arousing. This is especially true for female submissives who enjoy being held down and “taken” by their male dominant. This allows both partners to indulge in force fantasies.
    Although very taboo, consensual force fantasies are a popularelement of many couples’ sex lives, both in the mainstream and BDSM community. This type of erotic escapism allows male dominants to “let go” and indulge their more primal, basic desires while simultaneously allowing female submissives to enjoy their partner’s brute strength and sexuality. The female submissive can also enjoy guilt-free sex. Because she cannot resist, she has no option but tobe used as a sexual object and experience sexual feelings.
    BDSM force fantasies run the gamut from lukewarm to scalding. Beginners