The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know Read Free Page B
Author: Mantak Chia
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In one study, the average number of orgasms a multi-orgasmic man had was four. Some had the minimum of two, and one had sixteen.
In Hartman and Fithian’s study, the average number of orgasms a multi-orgasmic man had was four. Some had the minimum of two, and one had sixteen. In another study, by sex researchers Marion Dunn and Jan Trost, most men reported having between two and nine orgasms before losing their erection. 5
In their famous book, The G-Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality, Alice Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John Perry argued that male and female sexuality were much more similar than we tend to think. In addition to their discovery of the G spot, they also reported that men could have multiple orgasms like women. We tend to think that male sexuality is simple and identical from one man to the next, while female sexuality is complex and differs dramatically from one woman to the next. The truth is that ejaculation is simple, as are all bodily reflexes (think of hitting your funny bone), but orgasm, which involves our most sophisticated sexual organ, the brain, is quite complex and variable depending on the person, the sexual experience, and even the individual orgasm.
So, if men can have multiple orgasms like women and half of all boys experience multiple orgasms before adolescence, what happens that makes them lose this ability?
Apparently, most men lose the ability to have multiple orgasms when they start ejaculating in adolescence. Orgasm and ejaculation take place within seconds of each other and for most men become one and the same. In the next section, you will learn (or possibly relearn) how to separate the two once again. This will allow you to experience the crescendo of orgasm many times before or even without the crash of ejaculation.
Understanding Your Orgasm
Now that you understand the difference between orgasm and ejaculation, it is important to understand the nature of male orgasms and how multiple (non-ejaculatory) orgasms differ from the old-fashioned (ejaculatory) ones.
Multiple orgasms begin like any others: you start by getting aroused until you feel close to the point of ejaculating. As you learn in the following sections to increase your awareness of your arousal, you will be able to stop the stimulation just before the “point of no return,” after which you would ejaculate. Just before this point, you will experience a series of contractions in your genitals lasting three to five seconds. These pleasurable pelvic orgasms at first may feel like a fluttering or a rather mild release of pressure. These are called “contractile-phase” orgasms, and in time as you learn to play with the edge they can be just as intense as the ejaculatory orgasms you are accustomed to. Don’t get discouraged if they are rather tame at first. Once you are able to identify and separate these orgasmic contractions from ejaculation, you will be able to multiply and intensify them.
This contractile-phase orgasm is the moment of truth: instead of continuing on to ejaculation, you will stop or decrease your stimulation long enough to regain control of your arousal rate. You can also squeeze your PC muscle, which we will describe below, which will help you maintain some control if you feel like you are about to ejaculate.
With multiple orgasms, instead of cresting over into ejaculation, you will then decrease your arousal slightly and prepare for another orgasm. With multiple orgasms, your arousal is like a wave that instead of cresting is swept up by a larger wave that takes it even higher. Some multi-orgasmic men describe falling back into their orgasm rather than falling forward into ejaculation. These are simply metaphors that may help you as you discover your own orgasmic process.
It is important to remember not to strive too hard to experience these contractile-phase orgasms. Most men
180
120
1 MINUTE
1 MINUTE 1 MINUTE 1 MINUTE
! ! !
60
! = PEAK OF ORGASM
In one study, the average number of orgasms a multi-orgasmic man had was four. Some had the minimum of two, and one had sixteen.
In Hartman and Fithian’s study, the average number of orgasms a multi-orgasmic man had was four. Some had the minimum of two, and one had sixteen. In another study, by sex researchers Marion Dunn and Jan Trost, most men reported having between two and nine orgasms before losing their erection. 5
In their famous book, The G-Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality, Alice Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John Perry argued that male and female sexuality were much more similar than we tend to think. In addition to their discovery of the G spot, they also reported that men could have multiple orgasms like women. We tend to think that male sexuality is simple and identical from one man to the next, while female sexuality is complex and differs dramatically from one woman to the next. The truth is that ejaculation is simple, as are all bodily reflexes (think of hitting your funny bone), but orgasm, which involves our most sophisticated sexual organ, the brain, is quite complex and variable depending on the person, the sexual experience, and even the individual orgasm.
So, if men can have multiple orgasms like women and half of all boys experience multiple orgasms before adolescence, what happens that makes them lose this ability?
Apparently, most men lose the ability to have multiple orgasms when they start ejaculating in adolescence. Orgasm and ejaculation take place within seconds of each other and for most men become one and the same. In the next section, you will learn (or possibly relearn) how to separate the two once again. This will allow you to experience the crescendo of orgasm many times before or even without the crash of ejaculation.
Understanding Your Orgasm
Now that you understand the difference between orgasm and ejaculation, it is important to understand the nature of male orgasms and how multiple (non-ejaculatory) orgasms differ from the old-fashioned (ejaculatory) ones.
Multiple orgasms begin like any others: you start by getting aroused until you feel close to the point of ejaculating. As you learn in the following sections to increase your awareness of your arousal, you will be able to stop the stimulation just before the “point of no return,” after which you would ejaculate. Just before this point, you will experience a series of contractions in your genitals lasting three to five seconds. These pleasurable pelvic orgasms at first may feel like a fluttering or a rather mild release of pressure. These are called “contractile-phase” orgasms, and in time as you learn to play with the edge they can be just as intense as the ejaculatory orgasms you are accustomed to. Don’t get discouraged if they are rather tame at first. Once you are able to identify and separate these orgasmic contractions from ejaculation, you will be able to multiply and intensify them.
This contractile-phase orgasm is the moment of truth: instead of continuing on to ejaculation, you will stop or decrease your stimulation long enough to regain control of your arousal rate. You can also squeeze your PC muscle, which we will describe below, which will help you maintain some control if you feel like you are about to ejaculate.
With multiple orgasms, instead of cresting over into ejaculation, you will then decrease your arousal slightly and prepare for another orgasm. With multiple orgasms, your arousal is like a wave that instead of cresting is swept up by a larger wave that takes it even higher. Some multi-orgasmic men describe falling back into their orgasm rather than falling forward into ejaculation. These are simply metaphors that may help you as you discover your own orgasmic process.
It is important to remember not to strive too hard to experience these contractile-phase orgasms. Most men