Never Satisfied: Do Men Know What They Want? Read Free Page A

at midnight on a Saturday night, she had better pick up the phone. He doesn’t want to hear any excuses about her being too busy hanging out with her girlfriends. In his mind, she is his personal sex slave who is at his beck and call 24-7. As the relationship develops, she is restricted from pursuing other intimate relationships and is expected to be completely loyal to him. Any breach of this unwritten contract will prompt him to terminate the affair and go hunting elsewhere. Women see this as hypocritical since he himself is cheating. But surprisingly many women tolerate this nonsense. In their minds his jealousy is evidence that he cares about her. When the only thing he really cares about is what he’s getting out of the relationship. It’s all about him!
     
    Physical beauty would have to be the least most important attribute. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not implying that men who cheat are only interested in ugly women. What I’m merely saying is, a woman who is exceptionally attractive and terrible in bed is not all that valuable an asset to the cheating man. He would prefer a woman of moderate looks who’s great in bed, and who has her own place where he can go to creep. Oftentimes, the overly attractive woman is seen as a liability because she is more likely to make demands of his time and money. And since most cheating men are broke, the last thing they need is an additional expense. The philosophy is, “Keep it simple, keep it cheap, and keep it on the downlow.”
     
    The process of choosing this qualified other woman from out of the crowd is a complex one. As you well know, the nightclub is a very dense place. Therefore, the hunter must keep his eyes sharp and position himself in the areas where his efforts can be maximized. Often you will notice him sitting at the bar, standing by the door, or looking down over the crowd from atop his perch. He wants to be the first to move in for the kill if a vulnerable woman should arrive, or should I say, a wounded animal? Once he spots his target, the chase is on. Armed with a fresh haircut, splash of cologne, and hopefully a breath mint he sets out on his lustful safari.
     
    Just as the animal hunter relies on guns, traps, and camouflage to capture his prey, the cheating man depends on smooth talk, good looks, and the low self-esteem of his victims to accomplish his goals. But determining whether a particular woman has the characteristics that will suit his purpose is not such an easy task in the nightclub environment. Loud music, incurable perpetrating, and the woman’s blocking girlfriends make the process all the more difficult. This leaves him with little else to go on except a woman’s attire. More precisely, what she’s wearing and how she’s wearing it. This is the first indication as to her level of availability, class, and morality. But due to the fact that short, tight outfits are commonplace wherever you go, the perception is that most of the women in the club are dizzy, promiscuous whores looking for action. Some men may perceive it as an invitation to touch, grasp and be disrespectful. There is no doubt many women expect these types of impulses since they go to such great lengths to expose so much of themselves. They are shamelessly sending a message regarding their availability, while adamantly demanding to be acknowledged. The hunter is merely reimbursing her for her troubles. And it doesn’t help that women are on the dance floor bouncing and grinding to songs that refer to them as bitches and hos, while at the same time demanding to be respected. It’s a complete contradiction!
     
    On the other hand, the woman who elects to dress conservatively is viewed as more ethical and self-assured. The message she sends is, “I’m confident enough in what I am wearing to attract a man who respects me and is not out just looking for sex.” Some men also perceive her as more intelligent and classy. Mature and self-confident women constantly complain