Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice Read Free

there are regional differences in the meanings of
some terms used in our subculture.
    Defining Some Key Terms
    This alphabetized list certainly won't include all the terms you'll
come upon in our Lifestyle - just some of the broader concepts.
Now, a person is not likely to be ONLY ONE of the following, but
an amalgam of a little bit of trainer and a little bit of Dom and
a little bit of Master and a little bit of a Daddy. Because each
person is a little bit different, each person has to make their own
path when starting or maintaining a Master/slave relationship.
    boy or boi: Again, turning to Officer Wes: "leather boy
- a submissive man wanting a Leather Daddy father figure. The word `boy' in this sense has nothing to do with
biological age. It is a mindset." He goes on to provide his
definition of "boy mindset" as: "i want to trust my Daddy a whole lot, but there are certain things that will always be
off-limits. There are some limits i will never be willing to
negotiate." A "boi" is a female boy.

    Daddy: Officer Wes defines a Leather Daddy as: "A
dominant man into what's generally considered `kinky.'
Likes being a father figure for his leather play buddy(ies)."
A Daddy differs from a Master in that the Daddy offers a
more nurturing and supportive model. A Daddy knows the
value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the
best of him.
    Dom or Domme: A dominant person who takes control
during specific (often negotiated) periods. That is why D/s
relationships are often associated with BDSM (Bondage,
Discipline, Sado-masochism) scening (a "scene" is an
enounter that may or may not include sexual activity. It
can take place in private or in a public BDSM party or
club.)
    Master (adj): A term often applied to a Leatherman who
has earned such respect within the Community that other
senior Leathermen refer to this person as Master (regardless of gender). This respect is generally granted after
years of selfless contribution to the Leather Community
as a whole.
    Master (n): A man or woman who exerts near total control over another - often pursuant to a negotiated contract. One current hot topic is whether or not a person
can be a Master unless he or she has a slave - someone
who actually calls the person "Master." I'll sidestep that
embroilment for the moment, please. The issue, here, is
whether the person plays primarily in the world of authority
exchange rather than in the world of power exchange. For
our purposes, a Master takes authority over another either
for a contracted period or permanently (more on this at a later point). A Master is a Dominant who could occasionally bottom to someone else - this could be his own slave.
In this sense, the Master is referred to as versatile. The
Master's primary responsibility is to do everything within
his/her power to maximize the potential of his/her slave(s).
This involves such things as:

    • Maintaining and protecting the trust given to him/her
by the slave's submission.
    • Being clear about the terms and conditions of the
slave's service, including restrictions on the slave's
activities and Master's rights to use the slave.
    • Ensuring the slave's physical, social, emotional, spiritual, and financial wellbeing.
    • Providing whatever training, direction and guidance is
necessary to develop the slave to his/her true potential.
    • Establishing and maintaining effective lines of communication with the slave.
    • Exercising care and sound judgment in the relationship, as the slave's condition and conduct reflects
upon the Master and his/her House.
    Owner: The term "Owner" is starting to be used to
describe a permanent M/s relationship based on a simple
exchange of profound vows. The Owner pledges to take
care of all of the slave's needs and the slave pledges to
obey and to serve his/her Owner. Period. Permanently.
No contract.
    Protocols: In the military sense - a directed series
of steps to be followed in a given