Right yet.â
âAnd fast starting to believe that such a man doesnât exist for me. Iâm thirty-four, for heavenâs sake. Iâm running out of time to meet a man who doesnât have to resort to Viagra to perform.â
âNow, that is a gross exaggeration, and you know it. There are lots of men out there in their thirties, or even forties, who are awesome lovers. Thereâs bound to be one whoâs perfect for you. You just havenât found him yet, but you will. I know you will.â
âThatâs because youâre a romantic, while Iâm a realist,â I pointed out.
âYou would be just as romantic as I am if it hadnât been driven out of you by that therapist you went to,â she answered, her voice filled with scorn.
âDr. Anderson made me a strong, confident woman,â I said quickly.
âBy stripping away all ideas that men can be just as nurturing and emotionally giving as women, yes. But really, Lorina, do you want to live the rest of your life alone because your dad was an asshole, and your ex was cut out of the same material? Not all men are like them. There are plenty of men out there who cherish women.â
âI know that, silly. I know that there are perfectly nice men aroundâitâs just that I donât seem to attract them. Hey, how did we get onto the subject of my pathetic excuse for a love life? Weâre supposed to be celebrating you.â
Sandy laughed. âNice change of subject.â
âI thought it was.â My throat tightened up. âAre you sure youâre going to be all right? What if the nuns arenât as good with HIV as you think they are?â
âTheyâve had a higher success rate than Western doctors. I showed you the medical-review paper about them, and their treatments are beyond what I could get here.â
âYeah, but it just seems foolish to trust yourself to a religious group rather than reputable doctors with cutting-edge drugs that could nip the disease in the bud.â
âA religious group that has had tremendous success with their antiretrovirus drugs that are allowing thousands of people with HIV to live perfectly normal, healthy lives. No, thereâs no cure for it, but at least with the treatments I get with the nuns, I will
have
a life. And thatâs certainly worth pursuing, donât you think? I donât want to go through my life wondering if I could have done more.â She paused, and said softly, âLorina?â
I rubbed my ear. The phone had been pressed into it so hard that I was sure it was leaving a mark. âRight here, babe.â
âDonât cry. You know this is for the best.â
âNo, I donât, but I respect the fact that you think withdrawing from the world is whatâs best for you. I just wish you could do it closer to home, where I could occasionally see you.â
âThe order doesnât work that way. When they say cloistered with no contact with the outside world, they mean it.â
âBut . . . youâll need doctors and medicines.â It was the same objection that I had made for the last two days,and I knew even as I spoke the words what her response would be.
âIâll have doctors and medicines. Just not the same kind we have here.â
âYour doctor said there were all sorts of drugs available for you to take that could let you be just fineââ
âAnd I will resort to them if I have to, but from everyone Iâve talked to who has HIV, this treatment is the best way to get a handle on it so it doesnât progress any further. Even my doctor agrees that it wonât hurt me in the least, and will likely help me just as much as, if not more than, conventional drugs. Oh, Lorina, I know you donât agree with me about going away, but it really is the best answer. Iâll be happy thereâI really will. And after two months, Iâll be able to