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please your partner if you really don’t want to do it.
    Basically, everyone needs to be on the same page about anal pleasure for it to be a healthy, positive, pleasurable experience. If one of you has reservations, unresolved fears, or doubt, neither ofyou will have a good time. Chances are, if you’re the receptive partner and you’re not into it, your ass will let you know by being tense and the experience will be very uncomfortable. So make sure you and your partner are in agreement before your anal exploration begins.
TALKING DURING PLAY
    The talking shouldn’t end when the anal pleasure begins! Opening up the lines of communication will help open up your butt, trust me. The partner on the receiving end of the anal penetration should always be the one who calls the shots; the giver should listen and follow his or her lead. The more information and feedback the receiver relays to the giver, the more confident the giver will feel in what he or she is doing.
    Some people may feel hesitant about giving their partners directions in the bedroom; they don’t want to appear bossy, demanding, or critical of what someone is already doing. You need to get over that quickly if you want to be able to have truly good sexual communication. Lovers who speak up about what they want and need are one step closer to getting it. Lovers who listen to directions and welcome help and advice are much more likely to give their partners what they want. It’s a win-win situation!
    Newcomers to anal play should be talking up a storm, since they’re exploring virgin territory. If you’re the “doer,” ask your partner how she feels and what she likes. Try out a different technique, get feedback, then try another to get a sense of what works best. Ask before you proceed to the next step, whatever it is (another finger, a bigger toy, intercourse). Listen to what she says as well as sensing how her body responds to what you’re doing.
    If you’re the one getting done, be specific with your partner. Would you like the thrusting to be a little slower, a little faster, somewhere in between? Do you want to feel deeper penetration or have him back out a little? How does the angle feel, is he hitting your G-spot indirectly? Would you prefer the movement to be harder, gentler, or is it just right? Do you need more clitoral stimulation, some nipple play, or your hair pulled? Don’t be afraid to speak up! And, if everything feels perfect, well, you can say that, too.
FOLLOWING UP
    It’s also helpful to offer follow-up feedback after the sweat has dried and you’ve come out of your post-orgasmic haze. Maybe you forgot to point something out in the heat of the moment. Perhaps you really loved that naughty comment your partner whispered in your ear right before you had an orgasm. Or one position really felt better than another. No need to keep this crucial information to yourself! The more you share with each other, the more you can store up in your brains to make the next anal adventure even hotter!



CHAPTER 3
PREPARING FOR ANAL SEX: HYGIENE, LUBE, AND SAFER SEX
     
    ANAL PLAY REQUIRES some preparation, mainly on the recipient’s part, which is why it’s not the most ideal sexual activity for a spontaneous quickie. Sure, unplanned anal romps happen and plenty of times all goes well without any forethought. But, if you’re going to explore anal pleasure, some preparation beforehand will go a long way toward making the experience more comfortable for both of you.
    One of the most common fears about anal sex is that it won’t be a clean affair. After all, your butt was built for waste management, and who wants to hang out in the trash, right? Yes and no. When we have a bowel movement, feces stored in the colon pass through the rectum, down into the anal canal, and out the anus. Note, that the colon is the storage area and the rectum and anal canal are pathways. So, your first step is to regulate your digestive system and have a bowel movement