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achieve union and increased cooperation.
    After the horse whisperer’s popularity waned, we were introduced to Cesar Milan. He became famous for his work in rehabilitating problem dogs on his popular television show, The Dog Whisperer. The same philosophy applied to working with dogs—that if the owner could intuitively read their animal’s needs and respond correctly, the animals would cooperate.

    Your Children Are Not Animals or Pets
    There’s a big difference between horse whispering and child whispering: Your child is not an animal or a pet. Your child is a person and I do not see you as “owning” them.
    However, this same principle applies in all instances: When you know how to read the messages you are being given and you respond to them in kindness and with inspiration, you will experience more cooperation and mutual respect. I have witnessed amazing changes when parents apply the same Child Whispering techniques I will teach you in this book. Try them and your children will be happier, more successful, and cooperative.

    How Child Whispering Works and What it Does
    “Child Whispering” is my philosophy of working with children based on the model of Energy Profiling. Energy Profiling is an assessment tool that considers body language, communication, learning processes, personality, physical characteristics, and numerous other qualities. This model provides parents with an intuitive understanding of how their children see the world and innately express themselves.
    As a result of identifying your child’s true nature—or Type—based on my Energy Profiling system, you will become your own “Child Whisperer.” You will more clearly understand the pattern of your child’s thoughts, feelings, social interactions, motivations, and priorities. You will learn what they are naturally designed to express and experience, as well as what honors and supports them. As a result, you will be able to parent in a way that creates a greater degree of mutual cooperation and deep bonding with your child that significantly decreases the need for discipline.
    Most parents have been trained and convinced that disciplining children is the way to get a child to cooperate. But let’s look at the definition of the word discipline:

    “The practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience.”
    —Webster’s Dictionary

    Consider how backward this approach is! Yes, children need to understand appropriate behavior, but do we really believe that they could not learn through any other means but punishment? Do we really need to teach them by coercion? No. In fact, children learn more positive lessons through other means. For example, a two-year-old who imitates her mother isn’t trying to help because she was punished. She just chooses to help because she wants to.
    Instead of trying to discipline and train children into a certain way of being, parents will be more effective when they recognize their children’s natural way of being and parent them according to their individual needs. Every child is innately different. I often hear parents say how different their children are, even though those children grow up in the same house!

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    MARK AND MARIO’S STORY
    Each Child is Different
    My two sons, Mark and Mario, are perfect examples of how two children can be complete opposites of each other. If I hadn’t understood their true natures through the model of Energy Profiling, I could have easily judged certain tendencies and behavior traits they each expressed naturally as flaws.
    Mario, our fun-loving son, has a natural gift for spontaneity, bright ideas, friendliness, and an upbeat, hopeful attitude. His nature expresses itself as randomness that can be judged as irresponsible. Mark, our more serious son, has a natural gift for structure and focus. He prioritizes being his own authority, which can bring out others’ judgment that he’s a know-it-all. The same