thing is a dead marriage. The second bad thing is the loss of respect and love for your spouse. The third bad thing is each of you will think of and may look for passion outside the marriage.
Everyone has a desperate need for passion. If you don’t have it with your spouse, and you are not dedicated to living by biblical principles, you’ll try to find it somewhere else: an affair, a sexual addiction, your work, your kids, alcohol, drugs, food, a hobby . . .
How many marriages end because of a lack of passion? Too many to count.
Myth #4: Passion Doesn’t Require Any Effort; It Just Happens (Secular, Popular Culture)
Passion is a complete and an utter mystery. It’s like magic. Nobody understands why it comes and why it goes. It’s natural. It’s spontaneous. It’s effortless. It explodes between two persons, stays for an indeterminate period of time, and then unpredictably vanishes.
Truth: Passion requires hard work
It’s true that the initial attraction and chemistry between two persons is a mystery. Nobody can explain it. But once your initial infatuation wears off, that’s when the work begins. Getting your passion back and keeping it for a lifetime will demand a lot of effort.
In your temporary infatuation passion, feelings come first and romantic behaviors follow. You “feel” strongly, and therefore you engage in romantic behavior.
When your infatuation passion ceases, you must reverse the process. Now, you must engage in romantic behavior first and then your feelings of passion—deeper and more intimate—will follow.
There is no mystery about the development and maintenance of deep passion. The secular world may not have a clue, but God knows exactly how real passion operates. He reveals these secrets in the Song.
Now, let’s take a look at the book of Song of Solomon itself. I need to correct three myths about the Song so you know you can trust its timeless message.
Myth: The Song Is an Allegory
A surprising number of Bible scholars, past and present, cannot accept that God would include a book on romance, sex, and passion in the Bible. So, the Song must only be about something else: God and Israel, Christ and his love for his church, or the relationship between individual Christians and Christ. All the explicitly sexual images in the Song are symbols and metaphors that have nothing to do with literal sex. Their purpose is to teach spiritual principles.
Truth: The Song is the love story of Solomon and Shulamith
The Song is about romance. Passionate love. Sex. That is its central message. The language and terms are explicitly sexual because the book is about sex! If you’ve never been in a love relationship, I guess you could miss the point of the Song. But there’s no excuse for anyone else.
The Song is full of symbols and metaphors, but they are all used to tastefully and beautifully describe romance, passion, love, and sex. The Song is clearly and unmistakably about a real man (Solomon), a real woman (Shulamith), and their relationship.
Myth: The Song Is about Young, Idealistic Love
The same persons who believe passion is only a phase in a love relationship hold this interpretation of the Song. They say it is a beautiful description of the early years of a young couple who is ecstatically in love. It helps us all as couples to look back with fondness to that bygone era of our relationships when everything was wonderful. However, this type of idealistic, passion-filled love doesn’t last, and we all have to move on to a more serious, mature love.
Truth: The Song is about a passionate love that can last and be ended only by death
Yes, the Song is about two lovers during the early years of their relationship. It describes their courtship, wedding, and the first years of their marriage. But the Song’s Passion Principles do not apply only to the early part of a relationship. God is teaching how to maintain a vibrant, marvelous passion throughout the entire span of a marriage.
Why
Everyone has a desperate need for passion. If you don’t have it with your spouse, and you are not dedicated to living by biblical principles, you’ll try to find it somewhere else: an affair, a sexual addiction, your work, your kids, alcohol, drugs, food, a hobby . . .
How many marriages end because of a lack of passion? Too many to count.
Myth #4: Passion Doesn’t Require Any Effort; It Just Happens (Secular, Popular Culture)
Passion is a complete and an utter mystery. It’s like magic. Nobody understands why it comes and why it goes. It’s natural. It’s spontaneous. It’s effortless. It explodes between two persons, stays for an indeterminate period of time, and then unpredictably vanishes.
Truth: Passion requires hard work
It’s true that the initial attraction and chemistry between two persons is a mystery. Nobody can explain it. But once your initial infatuation wears off, that’s when the work begins. Getting your passion back and keeping it for a lifetime will demand a lot of effort.
In your temporary infatuation passion, feelings come first and romantic behaviors follow. You “feel” strongly, and therefore you engage in romantic behavior.
When your infatuation passion ceases, you must reverse the process. Now, you must engage in romantic behavior first and then your feelings of passion—deeper and more intimate—will follow.
There is no mystery about the development and maintenance of deep passion. The secular world may not have a clue, but God knows exactly how real passion operates. He reveals these secrets in the Song.
Now, let’s take a look at the book of Song of Solomon itself. I need to correct three myths about the Song so you know you can trust its timeless message.
Myth: The Song Is an Allegory
A surprising number of Bible scholars, past and present, cannot accept that God would include a book on romance, sex, and passion in the Bible. So, the Song must only be about something else: God and Israel, Christ and his love for his church, or the relationship between individual Christians and Christ. All the explicitly sexual images in the Song are symbols and metaphors that have nothing to do with literal sex. Their purpose is to teach spiritual principles.
Truth: The Song is the love story of Solomon and Shulamith
The Song is about romance. Passionate love. Sex. That is its central message. The language and terms are explicitly sexual because the book is about sex! If you’ve never been in a love relationship, I guess you could miss the point of the Song. But there’s no excuse for anyone else.
The Song is full of symbols and metaphors, but they are all used to tastefully and beautifully describe romance, passion, love, and sex. The Song is clearly and unmistakably about a real man (Solomon), a real woman (Shulamith), and their relationship.
Myth: The Song Is about Young, Idealistic Love
The same persons who believe passion is only a phase in a love relationship hold this interpretation of the Song. They say it is a beautiful description of the early years of a young couple who is ecstatically in love. It helps us all as couples to look back with fondness to that bygone era of our relationships when everything was wonderful. However, this type of idealistic, passion-filled love doesn’t last, and we all have to move on to a more serious, mature love.
Truth: The Song is about a passionate love that can last and be ended only by death
Yes, the Song is about two lovers during the early years of their relationship. It describes their courtship, wedding, and the first years of their marriage. But the Song’s Passion Principles do not apply only to the early part of a relationship. God is teaching how to maintain a vibrant, marvelous passion throughout the entire span of a marriage.
Why
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