Declutter Your Mind: Twelve Secret Steps to Clear Mental Clutter for A Lifetime of Peace and Bliss Read Free Page B

what you put out.
     
    Step Five:
Write down your feelings
    Acknowledge
your thoughts and question why you feel that way, then write down the emotion
you feel—especially when you have a negative thought. Whatever that emotion,
tone it down using a thesaurus as described in step 3. The more in touch you
are with your thoughts and emotions, the better you assert control over your
attitude. That will help you reframe a negative attitude into one of opportunity
which will help your progression towards a positive mental attitude.
     
    Know
thyself.
     
     

Secret #8: Your New Most Powerful Word
    Master
the art of saying no!
     
    Everything that
is cluttering the world around you is a direct result of you permitting it to
happen, simply by saying yes.  
     
    Step One:
 Think before you agree
    The next
time you feel tempted to say yes to anyone, stop and respond instead with, “let
me think about it and get back to you tomorrow.” Always sleep on it and be
selfish. Is it going to be of benefit to you and further your goals? If not,
don’t agree. If yes, then do it because you must stay on top of your priorities.
     
    Step Two:
 Say no when it collides with your morals
    This comes
back around to knowing yourself. Your skills, your values, your beliefs and
your goals. Everything you agree to should serve your life with purpose. There
are plenty of ways to serve others while maintaining your priorities and goals without
the inherent chaos brought by making commitments that are inconsistent with who
you are and who you want to be. 
     
    Step Three:
 Keep all doors open by saying no with grace
    Be firm when
you say no. No ifs, buts, or maybes. Half certainties open the door for further
responses. Be honest. “I’m afraid I’m not able to assist. Thank-you for
asking.” If you really are not interested, do not add “at this time” or
you’ll be asked again.
    This
response is gentle but firm and doesn’t invite a second request.
     

 
Secret #9: Fear Not.
    Do not
be afraid to ask for help.
     
    “The only
thing we have to fear is...fear itself” — Franklin D. Roosevelt
     
    Fear is defeating...crippling.
The fear of looking stupid prevents you from being smart. The smartest people
in the world do something extraordinary. They recognize their true limitations,
work within them and seek help, advice and support when they need it.
     
    Do you know
your limits?
     
    A
foolproof three-step process to ask for help and come out way ahead
     
    Step
One:  Ask specific questions
    Don’t be
general with the question you ask. Get specific and down to the nitty gritty.
Explain your circumstances, the goal you’re trying to accomplish and the obstacles
you’ve hit causing you to get stuck.
     
    Step
Two:  Ask the right person
    There’s no
point asking the janitor about legislation issues. Direct your questions to
those who you feel have more real knowledge than you.  
     
    Ask those
whose opinion you value on the subject you’re struggling with. When you do,
you’re also giving him or her a vote of confidence as well.
     
    People
instinctively love that validation, and that’s why most are more than accommodating
when it comes to lending support and advice.
     
    Step
Three:  Be grateful for any advice you receive
    Never forget
gratitude. You may not get the answer you want, or get a completely different
perspective that means you doing a lot more work, but always say thank-you.
Never take the attitude of thanks but no thanks, so sorry I asked . Every
door will eventually close on you and every person to experience that attitude
will get defensive when you turn to them for advice. Sometimes the most
important advice is the hardest to hear. Always say thank you with a smile.
     
     

Secret #10:  The Only
Friend You Will Ever Have
    Journal
your way to a clear mind.
     
    In this
lifetime, you have but one friend you can always count on and that is yourself.
Before you make friends with anyone else, you must make friends