Becoming A Slave Read Free

and most of the rest of the time wil be needed for laundry, house cleaning, cooking, shopping, and a host of other assorted chores.

    Just deciding to become a slave isn’t enough as you wil find the search for your dominant partner wil be long and arduous, fil ed with a great many dead ends, broken promises, and dreamers who wil waste your time. Think about it for a minute. One doesn’t decide to become a doctor and begin practicing medicine the next day. We don’t decide we want a husband or wife and immediately walk down the aisle with the first person we date. Creating a new life, whatever it might be, takes time, learning, practice, reflection, and (usual y) a 33
    Here I use the term “Leather” as a euphemism for any and all kinds of kinky relationships, including BDSM, D/s, and alternate lifestyles.
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    great deal of preparation. But for those who persevere, a delightful and fulfil ing relationship awaits.

    The rule here is that the practical and the pragmatic wil take precedent over the frivolous and the imaginary. If it doesn’t work we won’t use it. If it ain’t broke we won’t fix it. We are talking about real lives lived in a real world. Unlike Mr. Benson, we’l have to go to work (though to be fair he did disappear from his penthouse on a daily basis).
    Unlike Beauty, no prince wil awaken us with a kiss and take us to his realm of sexual enthral ment. The relationship described herein is meant to be real, lived daily by real men and women, in real places around the world.

    There are two aspects to the journey of becoming a slave: the first is nature, the second is nurture.

    By nature I mean that being submissive has much to do with one’s personality and disposition, hence we talk about being “born to serve.” Nature implies a certain innate talent, abilities that are part and parcel of who we are.

    But nature alone is not enough. Hence there is a need for nurturing, as in “to educate, to train; to help grow or develop; cultivate.”34
    To train, “To coach in or accustom to a mode of behavior or performance; to make proficient with specialized instruction and practice”, then, is the purpose of this book. I use that word purposeful y, since real slavery and true service are manifest in behavioral outcomes. Not only are a master and slave who they are but more importantly they are known as who they are by how they live and what they do.

    For that reason this book isn’t about daddies, tops, bottoms, or submissives, per se , though I surely trust those who identify as such wil find much of value in these pages. I admit to being verbal y rigorous here. I have a rather intense, deeply committed, and serious relationship in mind when I write about mastery and slavery. It’s not that those who want to play at it can’t, nor that the merely curious won’t find much of value in my writing. I only state this warning now so that my purpose is clear:
    This book is a guide to becoming a slave in devotion and service to a master.

    I have also written the book on the premise that my reader has more than a passing familiarity with our kinky community. The merely curious wil find a great deal herein that describes our lifestyle, but I am presuming that my reader is already familiar with the more general customs, mores, and practices found in kinky communities.
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    All references to definitions are from American Heritage Dictionary , Houghton Mifflin, Boston, MA, 1982, unless otherwise noted.
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    In other words, there are basic techniques, modes of communication, and a unique vocabulary that probably ought to be learned before one decides to enter into a long term master/slave relationship.

    Your understanding of masters and slaves needs be rooted in a familiarity with the general culture of Leather as learned by your full participation within that community. If you haven’t yet met “us” in the real world, I suggest you read a primer35 or two and find a Leather bar or club, a munch or monthly